Mother’s Little Helper

Bonjour, mes bons amis!!

Have you ever felt like your body, and consequently your mind and heart somewhat too, were a bit out of sorts? Recently I had mentioned that my sleeping habits have been changing, and doing something I was absolutely professional at and thoroughly loved, is now so much more challenging. I’ve purchased new pricey pillows ($100 for 2 pillows convinced me they had to be great, right?), I make sure to keep the temperature cool in my bedroom, I’ve taken relaxing baths at night – I’ve even stopped watching anything scary or suspenseful after dark. And yet, just like Mick so famously sang, at times I find myself running for the shelter of a mother’s little helper…

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Mother’s little helper, helping for over 50 years… (img: stayfreemagazine)

Let’s not get dramatic now – I’m not popping pills or the such. But I can tell you that I understand how some people desperate for some relief end up falling down that rabbit hole. Some believe that contrary to the plethora of technology to make life easier and give back more personal time, we’re actually being DRAINED of time.

So what to do… I thought about this on my way into work this morning. What is it that truly reinvigorates and resets the mind, body and soul? Besides the obvious big-budget vacation ideas, what small things can we do to feel like we’ve found the shelter of mother’s little helper? Here are a few of my best ideas:

Don’t overbook yourself in one day, one week or one month. This is somewhat an obvi tip, and yet everyone is guilty of ignoring it. We pack our days as full as possible with meetings, conference calls, appointments, dinners, drinks, showers… the list never ends. And of course, all of these things are wonderful and enjoyable in and of themselves. But if you’re like me, too many scheduled events in one day, week or month is disastrous.
Instead of over-extending yourself to others, make sure you book personal time. For every 2-3 events for others, formally book a personal event, just to treat yourself – a mani/pedi, massage, facial, some shopping time, beach/pool/outdoors time, a hike. And make the appointment in your calendar, just like you would a meeting or conference call. And definitely keep the appointment. You deserve it!
don’t flake on your Me-Time appointments!
Cook your favorite meal or dish – for yourself. I came home one evening this week and made myself breakfast because bacon, eggs and hashbrowns all sounded so good, even if it was 8pm. It was my own little treat!
Make yourself MORE tired – but in a great way with a nice long hike or walk, and preferably in sunlight if possible. The vitamin D from the sunlight will naturally help lift your spirits, and the warmth from the light exercise will help relax tense muscles in the neck, shoulders and back. And by the end, you will probably be a bit more tired than usual and ready to enjoy a nice long night of sleep afterward.
Abalone Cove is one of SoCal’s greatest gems – perfect for a day hike to the tide pools!
How many times have you thought to yourself how much you would love perusing the local museum, local garden or park in your city on a weekday when there are no crowds? Why not take a day off from work, and spend the day doing one or two of those things you don’t get to do more often! Check your local museums’ schedules – most offer discounted or even free admission on specific days/times, so take advantage! (LACMA is free after 3pm for LA residents; and you can visit the Huntington Botanical Gardens on their Free Days!)
LACMA’s Urban Light outdoor exhibit (img: LACMA)

Huntington Botanical Gardens in Pasadena, CA are perfect for a relaxing day (img: The Huntington)